Negative Communication:
There are 4 main negative ways of communicating that are disastrous to relationships: Criticism: Attacking a person’s personality or character. Blaming and using the word “you” in pointing [...]
Facebook: The new marriage killer?
Dear readers: During my work over the last 13 years as a marriage and couple’s therapist, I have certainly run into a wide variety of issues and conflicts that threaten the success of marriages, [...]
12 Areas of Intimacy
When we talk about intimacy in therapy, a lot of times people assume that it means physical intimacy and sex. In some cases, physical intimacy is intimidating or even scary or trauma triggering [...]
5 Love Languages
Each of us has a specific way in which we feel loved. It is useful to discover which one of Chapman’s 5 Love Languages is your language. Go to www.5lovelanguages.com and take the quiz there to [...]
Asking: “What do you need?”
All people have emotional needs that are inherently part of who they are. When these needs are not met, we may feel sad, depressed, lonely, misunderstood, or disappointed. When couples are not [...]
Pinpointing where feelings come from is first step to address jealousy
Dear Nikki, I have always been a very jealous person and it has been a problem in every relationship I’ve had. I am deeply in love with my girlfriend and I don’t want jealousy to ruin another [...]
Date Nights
Many couples who come in to see me are suffering from what I call “roommate syndrome”. They are still committed to one another and are still in love, but they admit that they are not close [...]
